How often do we converse with someone we “intuit” might be quite different from our own standards, belief systems or arenas of comfort?
I was in a small local bakery the other day and at the first of my chatting with the baker, we were alone. While she was putting up my order, someone else came in and sat at the only tiny table – with two chairs. He asked a question which clearly was not intended for the baker. No one answered and as my back was to him, I turned and asked if he was talking to me. With a large non-threatening smile, he said, “Who else?” And so began a conversation that would never have happened without “an” overture.
At gatherings intended as mixers, we are more apt to interact with people we don’t know. In circumstances where we need help, we must share information and ask questions. But how often do we simply extend ourselves really wanting to hear the other person’s answer and respond to their thoughts rather than pursuing our own line of thinking?
Imagine what we might learn if we ask thoughtful questions and really listen to their comments. Then, follow up on “their” ideas instead of our own. We might learn something new, or be persuaded to change our point of view.
WOW, free and ongoing education.